UGHHHHHHHH!
Ok, this whole dating thing is so unbelievably frustrating!
I had another late night of talking with The Coach, 5 hours of chatting. It is great to talk to him and I just love hearing his voice. I feel like he is right there with me! He does a great job of holding a conversation and putting his two cents in as well and asking questions to keep the chatting going.
So, why am I so frustrated?
Well, we had talked about going out last night but plans fell through. We then talked about Thursday night, since he had a date with another woman planned on Wednesday night. At first I was ok with that, since we had just started talking. Now we have done lots of talking and he said that I am definitely #1 in the running so then why would he still take the time to go out with this other woman that he isn't even sure if he wanted to go out with?
If I was #1, wouldn't you think he would prefer to see me? Meet me? See if it the chemistry is there? I asked him the same question he asked me the night before. He wanted to know if the snowboarder said and did everything right, would I still want to meet him. I told him absolutely. So I asked, what if his date goes really well tonight, would he still want to meet with me? He said no doubt in his mind. So...ok we are on the same page there.
II guess if it was me, I would cancel my date and say that I wasn't feeling good, so that if it didn't go well with the date, then I could reschedule and I wouldn't have dissed anyone.
So am I wrong for thinking this way? Should I not stress about it? He did say he would send a text message today letting me know if he decided to go on the date or if we would go out. I didn't get any messages from him.
Well, I sent a text to him this afternoon because I couldn't stand keeping it in anymore...
"I just have to confess that I am a little
jealous that you another date tonight.
I guess it is kind of like your concerns
about the text messages from the
snowboarder."
I haven't heard back from him. He would just be getting home at this point, though I wasn't sure if he was going straight from work to this date since it was out that direction.
I'm trying to stay calm and breath and not be jealous...for Pete's sake...we haven't even met yet!
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
7 Feet tall...really?
I have time for a quick story, so this one fit the bill...it is a tall bill though!
I had started chatting with this guy online and we texed and talked a bit. He seemed like a very nice guy that had a lot going for him. The only red flag for me was that he was 7 feet tall! TRULY...7 Feet tall!!!
I couldn't even imagine how tall that really was and so I think my curiosity got the best of me. One afternoon, we managed to get our schedules to click so we met for coffee.
I had to laugh because I got out of my big SUV, the whole 5'2 of me... and he got out of his little sedan, all 7 feet of him! We gave each other a hug and literally, I was hugging him around his waist.
We went in and had coffee and got along great. Sitting down, you have no idea the height difference between us. It was pleasant but definitely no spark between us. We said our goodbyes and gave another hug, never to be in touch again!
I had started chatting with this guy online and we texed and talked a bit. He seemed like a very nice guy that had a lot going for him. The only red flag for me was that he was 7 feet tall! TRULY...7 Feet tall!!!
I couldn't even imagine how tall that really was and so I think my curiosity got the best of me. One afternoon, we managed to get our schedules to click so we met for coffee.
I had to laugh because I got out of my big SUV, the whole 5'2 of me... and he got out of his little sedan, all 7 feet of him! We gave each other a hug and literally, I was hugging him around his waist.
We went in and had coffee and got along great. Sitting down, you have no idea the height difference between us. It was pleasant but definitely no spark between us. We said our goodbyes and gave another hug, never to be in touch again!
A New Interest....
And so it goes....
A new interest arrives in place of a bad apple!
I had sent a wink a week ago on one of the dating sites and got a wink back last night. Well, usually I would think that was lame, since yes, I was interested or I wouldn't have winked...I expect an email. I let it slide this time and decided I was interested enough that I would IM him instead of playing the email game.
I will call him The Coach.
We started IMing and decided it would be easier to talk on the phone. He called immediately and sounded very nice and down to earth. After about 10 minutes, I got a call from Snowboarding Dad, so I made up an excuse to call The Coach back since I had more invested in Snowboarding Dad. It was nice to hear from Snowboarding Dad, since he had been out of town all weekend at tournaments and we had only texted a few times. I get such mixed signals from him that I am not sure how into me he is??? The conversation only lasted 10-15 minutes and then I gave The Coach a call back.
I felt bad for calling so late, 10:30pm, but he insisted he would be up for a while still and it was no bother. The conversation was so easy and enjoyable and you could tell you was into me as much as I was into him. We talked about everything from family to hobbies and even toward the end of the conversation about sex and what we liked. The whole idea of talking about what you like about sex is strange to me...It's great because it is out in the open and you can tell how a person is. Are they adventurous, daring, sexual, naughty or conservative? For me I need those first four qualities! haha
I loved that we also talked about who we are talking to right now online and our interests in each other compared to the others. It was also brought up how we felt about when is the right time to ask for the other person to take their profile offline.
It started getting late...oh wait...early and yet I could tell he didn't want to let me off the phone. He kept saying "Ok...one more question." "two more questions." and so on...he just kept adding more questions and asking me questions too.
Well, I am sure that he didn't expect to stay up as late as we did...we finally said goodbye at 7:45am! Yes...that is 9 hours!!!! How did that happen? That is like 3 or 4 dates and we haven't even met yet!
I just go a text from him asking if tonight will work, that he doesn't want to wait until Thursday to meet me. I thought that was so sweet! He has to be dying today from no sleep and yet he wants to see me tonight!
I don't know if I ever quit smiling today, I am very excited to see where this will lead because he sounds like everything I would like in a guy!
So...here I am, holding my breath again for another guy! The story of my single life!
A new interest arrives in place of a bad apple!
I had sent a wink a week ago on one of the dating sites and got a wink back last night. Well, usually I would think that was lame, since yes, I was interested or I wouldn't have winked...I expect an email. I let it slide this time and decided I was interested enough that I would IM him instead of playing the email game.
I will call him The Coach.
We started IMing and decided it would be easier to talk on the phone. He called immediately and sounded very nice and down to earth. After about 10 minutes, I got a call from Snowboarding Dad, so I made up an excuse to call The Coach back since I had more invested in Snowboarding Dad. It was nice to hear from Snowboarding Dad, since he had been out of town all weekend at tournaments and we had only texted a few times. I get such mixed signals from him that I am not sure how into me he is??? The conversation only lasted 10-15 minutes and then I gave The Coach a call back.
I felt bad for calling so late, 10:30pm, but he insisted he would be up for a while still and it was no bother. The conversation was so easy and enjoyable and you could tell you was into me as much as I was into him. We talked about everything from family to hobbies and even toward the end of the conversation about sex and what we liked. The whole idea of talking about what you like about sex is strange to me...It's great because it is out in the open and you can tell how a person is. Are they adventurous, daring, sexual, naughty or conservative? For me I need those first four qualities! haha
I loved that we also talked about who we are talking to right now online and our interests in each other compared to the others. It was also brought up how we felt about when is the right time to ask for the other person to take their profile offline.
It started getting late...oh wait...early and yet I could tell he didn't want to let me off the phone. He kept saying "Ok...one more question." "two more questions." and so on...he just kept adding more questions and asking me questions too.
Well, I am sure that he didn't expect to stay up as late as we did...we finally said goodbye at 7:45am! Yes...that is 9 hours!!!! How did that happen? That is like 3 or 4 dates and we haven't even met yet!
I just go a text from him asking if tonight will work, that he doesn't want to wait until Thursday to meet me. I thought that was so sweet! He has to be dying today from no sleep and yet he wants to see me tonight!
I don't know if I ever quit smiling today, I am very excited to see where this will lead because he sounds like everything I would like in a guy!
So...here I am, holding my breath again for another guy! The story of my single life!
Monday, March 9, 2009
Flashback: My Worst Date...Revisited!
It seems only fitting that I should share my worst date ever, since he (Arrogant Ass) decided to contact me again!
This was back in late summer, I met a guy on Match.com and we started texting that morning. We texted all day long and he seemed like a nice guy. I was at work, so we couldn't actually talk on the phone. He suggested we meet for a drink tonight in the city, so I agreed reluctantly.
After dinner, I headed into the city to meet Arrogant Ass for a drink. He tells me the name of the restaurant is D.....'s. I make several passes in the area, not able to find the restaurant. So I call him and he doesn't answer his phone. I text him and he starts texting me. Now...he knows I'm driving and yet refuses to talk on the phone but wants to text! Impossible in such a busy area!
He texts me "What, don't you know your way around the city?" What...did he really say that? He then proceeds to tell me that the restaurant is a different name but he isn't sure what it is called. I texted him " You are sitting at the restaurant, look at the F&%#ing menu and tell me what it is called!"
So I finally find the restaurant after getting the correct name, get to the table to find him already a little loopy on wine. He's definitely not my type, looks wise at all!
I try to make conversation with him, when he attempts to be "smooth" and use some cheesy lines. I asked him why he moved from California to here. His response almost made me throw up! "So I could meet you!" he said all suave! Ok...he moved here 5 years ago! Then he pelted me with more cheesy lines like, you look so beautiful in the moonlight and blah...blah..blah!
He went to the restroom and I truly wanted to get up and leave, but I'm just too nice for that! Instead I call my daughters and tell them to call and pretend to be fighting. He managed to find his way back to the table, guess I didn't pray for him to fall into the toilet hard enough! Then my kids call, screaming at the top of their lungs on the phone. I apologized and said I would have to cut the date short due to the fight. Ohhh no...he insisted, lets go for a walk, its beautiful out. Ummmm...you got it...no kids for him! I insisted I must leave, so he wanted to walk me to the car, meanwhile asking me at least a dozen more times to go for a walk with him.
Finally, I made it to my car and felt like I was in the clear, when he made a dive in for a kiss! I put my hand on his chest and pushed him away and excused myself.
Shortly after, I received a text saying that he had a great time and couldn't wait to see me again. I decided my smart ass side had to come out to make it clear to him that there would be no second date. I said, "Yeah...me, not so much! You were arrogant and had the corniest lines possible." He just texted back "Ouch!" A few months later, I received an email from him like nothing had happened, and then the story in the previous post explains the latest!
So, just remember...they always come back and ALWAY talk to someone on the phone before you meet them!
This was back in late summer, I met a guy on Match.com and we started texting that morning. We texted all day long and he seemed like a nice guy. I was at work, so we couldn't actually talk on the phone. He suggested we meet for a drink tonight in the city, so I agreed reluctantly.
After dinner, I headed into the city to meet Arrogant Ass for a drink. He tells me the name of the restaurant is D.....'s. I make several passes in the area, not able to find the restaurant. So I call him and he doesn't answer his phone. I text him and he starts texting me. Now...he knows I'm driving and yet refuses to talk on the phone but wants to text! Impossible in such a busy area!
He texts me "What, don't you know your way around the city?" What...did he really say that? He then proceeds to tell me that the restaurant is a different name but he isn't sure what it is called. I texted him " You are sitting at the restaurant, look at the F&%#ing menu and tell me what it is called!"
So I finally find the restaurant after getting the correct name, get to the table to find him already a little loopy on wine. He's definitely not my type, looks wise at all!
I try to make conversation with him, when he attempts to be "smooth" and use some cheesy lines. I asked him why he moved from California to here. His response almost made me throw up! "So I could meet you!" he said all suave! Ok...he moved here 5 years ago! Then he pelted me with more cheesy lines like, you look so beautiful in the moonlight and blah...blah..blah!
He went to the restroom and I truly wanted to get up and leave, but I'm just too nice for that! Instead I call my daughters and tell them to call and pretend to be fighting. He managed to find his way back to the table, guess I didn't pray for him to fall into the toilet hard enough! Then my kids call, screaming at the top of their lungs on the phone. I apologized and said I would have to cut the date short due to the fight. Ohhh no...he insisted, lets go for a walk, its beautiful out. Ummmm...you got it...no kids for him! I insisted I must leave, so he wanted to walk me to the car, meanwhile asking me at least a dozen more times to go for a walk with him.
Finally, I made it to my car and felt like I was in the clear, when he made a dive in for a kiss! I put my hand on his chest and pushed him away and excused myself.
Shortly after, I received a text saying that he had a great time and couldn't wait to see me again. I decided my smart ass side had to come out to make it clear to him that there would be no second date. I said, "Yeah...me, not so much! You were arrogant and had the corniest lines possible." He just texted back "Ouch!" A few months later, I received an email from him like nothing had happened, and then the story in the previous post explains the latest!
So, just remember...they always come back and ALWAY talk to someone on the phone before you meet them!
Goodbye to Painer Boy...Hello to something new!
Well...What a Birthday wish! Painter Boy is gone out of my life! I knew it had to be done, I just didn't want to admit it because I did really care about him and even love him. Even though I knew he was like poison to me!
So when guys are caught and backed into a corner, they will fight like raccoons!
I just sent him a text that said "Goodbye, Don't ever contact me again. Lose my number for good!" Instantly he responded with "Happy Birthday, By the way." I got texts from guys I can't even remember for my Birthday and my boyfriend can't remember when we just talked about it yesterday? Yep...RED FLAG!
He instantly went to...well, I've been seeing someone else. That is his excuse every time. He admit ed that he has lied about it before just to make me mad.
My good friend reminded me the other day...A Leopard never changes its spots! Yep...Painter boy is the same as he was when I first met him!
So, I'm a little hurt, but I knew that I couldn't trust him and wasn't gong to give him too much with that in my heart. I will live and I've learned who he truly is...a liar and player!
Of course, my true friends come to the rescue again! My dearest friend so far from me, Keith and Phone Sex Guy.
Goodbye and Good Ridden!
So when guys are caught and backed into a corner, they will fight like raccoons!
I just sent him a text that said "Goodbye, Don't ever contact me again. Lose my number for good!" Instantly he responded with "Happy Birthday, By the way." I got texts from guys I can't even remember for my Birthday and my boyfriend can't remember when we just talked about it yesterday? Yep...RED FLAG!
He instantly went to...well, I've been seeing someone else. That is his excuse every time. He admit ed that he has lied about it before just to make me mad.
My good friend reminded me the other day...A Leopard never changes its spots! Yep...Painter boy is the same as he was when I first met him!
So, I'm a little hurt, but I knew that I couldn't trust him and wasn't gong to give him too much with that in my heart. I will live and I've learned who he truly is...a liar and player!
Of course, my true friends come to the rescue again! My dearest friend so far from me, Keith and Phone Sex Guy.
Goodbye and Good Ridden!
Three Rules....
Rule #1: Don't delete old phone numbers!
Don't ever delete old phone numbers of guys you have dated!
They will call you again...and you look like an idiot when you
have to ask "who is this?" Whats worse is when they tell you
and you still have no clue!
I just had this happen today! I got a "Happy Birthday" text
from someone and didn't know who it was. So I asked the
question, who is this? He said Troy. We had dated and you
were Hot! . Ahhhh ok...The Up North Doctor, the only Troy
I know and talked to. I had talked to, but we became somewhat
friends instead. so I asked how his girl was. He said "My
dog? I gave her a bath today." Hummmmm I thought to
myself...why did he answer that? I said where do you live?
Still...I'm clueless! I ask him to send a picture. OH NO!!!
It is Arrogant Ass! (I'll be sharing that story...only my worst
date ever!) I told him "Thanks for the Birthday wishes but I'm
dating someone now."
The last story leads into rule #2 and #3...
Rule #2: They always come back! Enough said! You will feel like Scrooge when the three
ghosts came to visit him...many many times!
Rule #3: This rule came about from Arrogant Ass' from above...
Always...ALWAY! talk to someone on the phone before you meet them! You can tell
so much from talking to someone!
Don't ever delete old phone numbers of guys you have dated!
They will call you again...and you look like an idiot when you
have to ask "who is this?" Whats worse is when they tell you
and you still have no clue!
I just had this happen today! I got a "Happy Birthday" text
from someone and didn't know who it was. So I asked the
question, who is this? He said Troy. We had dated and you
were Hot! . Ahhhh ok...The Up North Doctor, the only Troy
I know and talked to. I had talked to, but we became somewhat
friends instead. so I asked how his girl was. He said "My
dog? I gave her a bath today." Hummmmm I thought to
myself...why did he answer that? I said where do you live?
Still...I'm clueless! I ask him to send a picture. OH NO!!!
It is Arrogant Ass! (I'll be sharing that story...only my worst
date ever!) I told him "Thanks for the Birthday wishes but I'm
dating someone now."
The last story leads into rule #2 and #3...
Rule #2: They always come back! Enough said! You will feel like Scrooge when the three
ghosts came to visit him...many many times!
Rule #3: This rule came about from Arrogant Ass' from above...
Always...ALWAY! talk to someone on the phone before you meet them! You can tell
so much from talking to someone!
Sunday, March 8, 2009
Advice for tonight....
Girls...
If you go to a guys house on one of your first dates, even if it to just meet up and go from there, I can almost guarantee that you will end up having sex! If you are attracted to him and he is attracted to you...something is going to spark! I had good intentions of going on a "public date" with Mr. Valentine's Day. We didn't know what to do so we went back to his place to look on the computer. Next thing I knew I was sitting on him, kissing him and well....at that point, neither of us were looking back! Hence...my Valentine's Day mistake!
Go out on a date in public! Meet at the location!
This makes your attraction a healthy attraction! You can flirt with each other and have fun without the pressure of sex being there.
If there is more there, your relationship will grow!
If you go to a guys house on one of your first dates, even if it to just meet up and go from there, I can almost guarantee that you will end up having sex! If you are attracted to him and he is attracted to you...something is going to spark! I had good intentions of going on a "public date" with Mr. Valentine's Day. We didn't know what to do so we went back to his place to look on the computer. Next thing I knew I was sitting on him, kissing him and well....at that point, neither of us were looking back! Hence...my Valentine's Day mistake!
Go out on a date in public! Meet at the location!
This makes your attraction a healthy attraction! You can flirt with each other and have fun without the pressure of sex being there.
If there is more there, your relationship will grow!
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